I (28M) started dating B (39M) about 2 months ago. We first started talking on Grindr (I know) mid-2020. Had a small conversation, but he disappeared for a few months.
Fast forward to November 2020, I see him on Grindr again and message him. We get to talking and agree to exchange phone numbers. We text all day and end up sexting. Everything is still going great and make a date to meet.
We meet at my place to watch a movie, let’s just say we didn’t watch the movie. Mid-sex he stops me and asks:
B: where do you see this going?
Me: I’m just going with whatever happens but I do see more than just a FWB.
We then agree to go out on a date because I want more than just a hookup with him. The date goes fantastic and we see each other few times after the first date. Then I royally fuck up.
On one of the more recent dates (right after Christmas) I kept pushing for sex and he declines however I keep pushing for it. He gets uncomfortable and ends up leaving my place.
A few days later on 12-28 he texts me that he needs to talk. He comes over to my place. He tells me that the last time he felt uncomfortable because even though he said no to sex I kept pursuing it. I apologized and let him know that it would not happen again. In my defense, he would teasingly say "no" but then we proceeded to have sex. We ended up cuddling and watching a Netflix show; he leaves after the show.
The next few days include us texting about our day-to-day and I ask the next time that we can see each other, we set a date for Wed. 01-06. The day before he texts me and says that he still needs more time regarding what we talked about the week prior. I told him that I understand and that he can take all the times that he needs.
Again, we continue to text about day-to-day things, call each other cute, tell each other that we miss each other.
Fast forward to today, I get my usual good morning text from him and we flirt a little bit about how we enjoy talking to each other. Before I start work I send this: "I hope I get to see you soon."
And nothing but radio silence for the passed few hours. While I know that we both can get busy at work, we've never gone a few hours without talking. I feel like I should include that we were calling each other pet names (babe/baby) prior to the the incident where I made him uncomfortable. After the incident, he stopped calling me pet names so I stopped as well so he doesn't feel awkward or obligated to.
When we we first started talking we both expressed that we do not like when our phones get blown up when we haven't replied (thank you exes). So, I do not want to send him another message about hanging out. I only sent that text this morning because I wanted him to know that I want to hang out with him soon, but I feel like I messed up because I am pushing him to hang out when maybe he isn't ready yet.
Did I push too much by saying what I did?
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