**DISCLAIMER** As with most dating advice, this is what I personally feel, and if it helps you then great! If it doesn't apply to you or help, I hope you find something that does!
If someone messages you that they want to hang out/go on a date/talk to you, respond with enthusiasm if you want them to see you as a potential partner! It shows them that you genuinely enjoy their company and time, and that you don't see them as "better than nothing". For example:
If I [22F] text someone "Hey! Do you wanna hang out tomorrow night and watch a movie? :) " and they respond with "sure, I'm not doing anything" or "alright" or (my personal favorite) "if you want to", I'm gonna question if it's worth my time to continue pursuing them. After all, dating involves finding a person you really like who also really likes you, right?
Those kinds of responses are totally fine on occasion or if you're talking to an established friend who you know enjoys your company and that's just the way they text. But if you're still getting to know someone and you constantly put out that kind of energy, they're going to think "this person doesn't really WANT to see me, they're just OKAY with it at best".
You don't have to send 10 exclamation points and a pile of emojis. Just put effort into your messages to show them that you ARE excited to see them. Simple things like "I'd love that!" or "yeah, that sounds great :)" can go such a long way. If you're not looking forward to hanging out with them, then by all means be dry as the Sahara, or even better: TELL THEM THAT.
I know everyone is different. Some people naturally text in a bored tone, or they're busy, or don't wanna appear too excited and scare the other person away, but as long as you can communicate that and make sure the other person knows it, then you're all good.
On the flip side, if you're the one receiving all the "bored" responses, it's okay to ask the other person if they meant it to come across that way. Again, communication is key, and that includes asking questions about tone and intention.
TL;DR: If you're interested in someone, make sure you come across that way when messaging them.
Edit: Of course, if a potential partner messages you for the very first time ever and you respond with "Hi! I'm so excited to meet you and I can't wait to hang out with you and get to know you and boy oh boy am I thrilled to get to spend time with you one day!!" that's off-putting for sure. Simple expressions of genuine interest are all you need, don't overwhelm the other person.
Edit: This also applies to other types of relationships, like friendships and work colleagues.
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