I’m not quite sure if my title really works but I’ll get to it. This will be long so I will include the TLDR at the bottom.
I will be 34 next month and I am a single dad to a daughter I have full time.
As of this week it has now been four years since I’ve been with someone in any capacity, and that has been my own decision.
When my ex left, it hurt of course, but my mom passed away shortly after. I was depressed and lonely, and my income had gone way down, that I couldn’t keep up with the bills I had, that were based on two incomes. We eventually had to move in with my dad.
I decided to not date, for multiple reasons. I was depressed and needed to work on myself. I needed to actually get to a point where I wasn’t thinking of my ex. My living situation wasn’t ideal. And my daughter needed me, which was my largest reason to not date.
Flash forward to now, I’m happier then I was the last few years of my relationship. I’m making more money then ever and my daughter has come out of everything as a very independent girl that doesn’t need me all of the time.
I have things I want to work on still, but on an emotional level, I feel ready to date. I’m just not sure how to. For one, my daughter and I still live with my dad, only now it’s because he needs the help. Losing my mom ended up running him dry. He got by but it depleted his retirement. I am in the market for a larger house for him to continue living with me.
I know that in the dating world, that’s a dealbreaker a lot of the time. I also just don’t know how to date. At 34, I didn’t think I would be needing to. Do I discuss my living situation up front, or wait a date or two? Hell what makes a good profile on a dating app?
And for the love of god, how do I take a good picture of myself. While I look fine when someone else takes a picture, if I take it I look like I’m wearing the fat suit Ryan Reynolds wore in Just Friends and using a fisheyed camera.
TLDR, How do I start dating at 34 as a full time dad that lives at “home” while also being totally inept at taking a selfie or making a dating profile.
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