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I'm not short (relatively tall, 5'10") so please don't think this is a cry for help.
But has anyone noticed that when people (more often women then others) ask for a partner who's 6' or taller, it's considered a double standard because most of the time they themselves aren't 6'? I get having a preference, but does this qualify the case and put it in double standard territory? If not, why is that not the case?
For instance, I prefer redheads. Sue me. I'm not going to cut myself off from society (the 98% of humanity) for not being redheads. Doesn't that make this a preference?
And if asking for someone who is 6' or taller is just a preference, a) why specifically set the standard at 6'? And also, b) can't they just ask for someone who's simply taller than they are (sort of spread the random distribution)? Why does an arbitrary (yet absolute) standard need to be placed? I mean i get if you have political stands to take or if you don't date quiet people (gotta look out for those jk), but as soon as numbers (arbitrary ones, remember) are involved, i start asking questions.
So my questions: 1) Isn't this a double standard? 2) If it's just a preference, why the solid floor (6')? 3) Isn't someone who's taller than them the goal? If so, why not just post their own height?
Again, this is not a cry for help. I'm not self-conscious, an incel, a neckbeard, or a nice guy, and I'm on the way to fixing my toxic masculinity. On top of that, I have all the attention I want from my local communities/friends. But I'd like some input from someone who's got other experiences/insights than me, or someone who's just straight smarter than me.
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