This is gonna be a long one and I’m thankful for everyone who’s reading this. A couple months ago I [f32] started hanging out with this guy [25] and we both started to catch feelings. Then he got scared and ghosted me for like two weeks. He hit me up again and we talked it through and he told me that he did catch feelings but he just didn’t wanna date right now. I was totally fine with that at that point so we agreed on being friends with benefits. Since then we’ve been hanging out a lot, almost every weekend (and not just watching Netflix but actually doing things and even going on dinner dates). I’ve met so many of his friends, I met his family over FaceTime, he acts around me as if he was my boyfriend (cuddling, kissing and all that), even when all his friends are there. Everyone thinks we’re dating and we have to correct them all time. He posted me on his Snapchat story recently and we took these really cheesy couple pictures (his idea). Just a few days ago I had a really traumatic experience and without me asking he rushed to my side, stayed the whole day and the night, really cared about me, held me, said all these perfect things and handled the situation just perfectly. That same night we had a very deep conversation where we also talked about our past relationships and it turned out he got really hurt after his last breakup (that was like 2 years ago). So basically I think he’s just really scared to get hurt again. I told him I understand because I used to be the same way after my last heartbreak but then I also explained that I didn’t wanna stand in my own way and in the way of something that might be really good for me so I opened up to people again. But I think he might not be there yet. At the same time he describes me as the perfect girl to date (even on that night), compliments me, tells me how much he cares. I think he does have feelings for me but he’s too scared to act on them. We’re both hanging out with other people too but we’re open about this. I don’t know what I wanna do. Because I can feel myself catching feelings again. I was able to handle all the forehead kisses and the cuddling and the pictures and meeting all his friends and family but that day when he was there for me and cared for me so much and was just perfect all around, I think that was the day where I started really liking him again. We had that one moment when we looked at each other for a little too long and I was like “oh fuck”. And now I’m sitting here and I don’t know what to do. I should probably cut all ties because he literally told me he didn’t want anything serious but another part of me wants to talk to him again. Not to convince him or to talk him into something but just to let him know how I feel. I think I’m just hoping that he might sit down one day with that knowledge and think about actually letting me in, like fully. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Part of me just wants to go no contact or at least keep my distance and stop hanging out all the time because I know if he won’t respond positively he’s gonna run the other way and I will lose him but if I don’t tell him and I just keep going I might get even more hurt. I don’t know if I should take the risk. Or maybe wait a little longer and then tell him? What would you guys do? I’ve never been in something like this before
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