I've been on fifteen Bumble dates. Here are my unpopular opinions based on my lived experiences:
1) If a first date doesn't go to a second one, I think the most common reason is because of lack of sexual attraction.
I've been on first dates where convo flowed well, venue was great, some laughs were had, and then boom ghosted. I'm willing to bet the woman looked at me and within the first 30 seconds thought "nope, not fucking this guy." I feel like both men and women essentially know if there's going to be a second date within the first few minutes of meeting.
On the flip side I was once met with starry eyes and giggly smile. I immediately knew we'd be dating for awhile, and I was right.
2) I can't speak for other people, but me personally, honest closure closes it. I so wish people would just be honest for the reason of the 'break up.' "Sorry your income and penis are too small. I just can't." I would prefer that a million times over the cliche "I didn't feel a connection, spark, chemistry, we didn't mesh."
My OCD brain kicks into high gear wondering what the real reason is, and if I just knew, I'd be at peace. Again this is more of a 'me' problem than a dating problem, but still.
3) It sucks dating as a guy. I have to initiate the convo, ask her out, logistically plan it, pay for it, ask for a second date, then initiate any touching. The heavy lifting gets tiring after awhile.
I recently matched with a woman who lives an hour away. Guess which one of us had to drive the distance to meet?
These are my unpopular views. What are yours?
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