Many people will date someone who they are fully aware are not right for them, but they hope that with enough time and effort they can change or fix them so that they work out, this is a recipe for disaster almost all of the time and it is a total waste of your time and effort.
People can only change and fix themselves if they are willing to do so, and take the right steps and reach out for the right support themselves. Yes, you can support this, but only if they are open to the change and support in the first place.
For example, if someone outright tells you that they don't want children, and you do want children, they probably are not the right person for you. Don't continue in the hopes they will change with enough time and effort from you trying to convince them. They might change, but they most likely won't. You've only got yourself to blame when later down the line they still don't want children now you question your entire relationship with them, when you could have just found someone who does want children in the first place.
We are all responsible for our own choices, that is the choice to make changes to yourself and overcome your problems, and also your choice in who you decide to date. You cannot control them, force them to change or anything else, only encourage, it is then up to them to make the choice, but don't expect anyone change for you. Keep that in mind when selecting your partner.
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