Hey all,
So I'll try to keep this brief. My girlfriend's sister started dating a guy I went to law school with. They are both 25 years old. I unfortunately vouched for the guy after knowing him for a year and a half. He would talk to me about how he really wanted to meet someone and start a relationship. He wanted something like I had at the time (someone I dated for a few years before current girlfriend). He met up with me, my girlfriend, and her sister one night; they hit it off and started talking more, eventually dating. Well, it took him about 2-3 months to show he is an asshole. There was an issue with him calling her a 6/10 compared to other girls, him telling people we went to school with that he was dating two people and showing pics comparing them (one was the sister, one who child friend he could never get with but always wanted). That's just the tip of the ice berg. Unfortunately, he is still a step up from her ex who was physically and emotionally abuse, as well as a steroid user who would headbutt holes in the walls (I wish that was a joke).
Skip forward, they have been dating for at least a year and a half. We have all graduated, he moved back home for a job about 2 hours away from her. He's not happy with his job, his friends from back home have either moved away or moved on with their lives, and he's just frankly down about himself. Well, he is down at their placed tonight (my gf and her sister live together) and his phone goes off. It's a bumble notification that he has been inactive for at least 30 days. I haven't used it myself so may be getting the exact words wrong but it was a 30 day inactive notification.
So here is the Q. Does that notification appear if you haven't used the app in say over a year? If he has left it on his phone since they started dating (or before they got serious), would he still receive notifications of inactivity? A year and half after use seems like a long time to get a 30 day inactive notification. Appreciate the help. The sister unfortunately rationalizes all his behavior, not matter what it is. So I'm hoping to give her some perspective. She's a good person who doesn't deserve to be treated like crap. Any other advise on how to tell if he uses the app would be appreciated. Neither my girlfriend or I have used it and I don't know anyone who has started dating someone but left the app installed on their phone, so looking for Reddit help.
Edit: Hoping this is ok to post here. I know its established relationship but really I'm trying to figure out the bumble end which felt as if I could get more help in dating.
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