I recently got rejected by someone and it really fucked me up bc I immediately began blaming myself and my struggles with mental health (depression/social anxiety).
I decided that it’s best to stop the cycle of unraveling and reach out to some friends. One of the friends I reached out to was the one who introduced the person I was rejected by. I told her I was trying to get help for my issues and was really working hard on being more transparent and maybe it would be a good idea to show her a reddit post about her friend so she could give me some perspective and I can get over being so reserved with my emotions. The post had a lot of info about my mental issues and strong feelings for the friend and long story short she saw the post too and I’m deathly afraid I came off as a “nice guy”, using my feelings to manipulate non-platonic situations.
What really cements my anxiety about being a “nice guy” is that I fully expected our friend to mention the post and some of my feelings to the girl I like, which makes me contemplate if it was any less of a “nice guy” move just because it was a hope and not an intention for her to take my feelings a certain way. Still the truth is that it was written for neither of them and when I decided to share, it was more for me to feel comfortable with the friend than to get a message to the girl I like, even though I wouldn’t have minded. So idk?
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