So I recently met a guy on a dating website. I absolutely had no expectations other than brief texting & useless conversation. My dad recently passed & I’ve been suffering from extreme depression, so after 10 mths of feeling that my life had no meaning, despite having a family that cares, loosing my dad was like I died... so I decided to join the world again by attempting to meet a few new people. Fast forward 6 wks later, I’ve been in constant communication with one particular guy. We talk every single day, sometimes even falling asleep on the phone at night. I’m recently retired at 46 (retired at 45) I did pretty well with savings & investments, so I decided after 25 yrs at one company, I would explore other avenues of life. Anyways, the guy, well, here’s the problem... while I’m suffering emotionally & psychologically, he’s suffering financially. I mean, he barley gets paid enough (off the books) to make ends meet. He has no car & lives with his sister at 48 yrs old. He was in an almost fatal car accident years ago that did extensive damage to his body & is just now applying for disability (which will help him greatly financially) meanwhile he is struggling. He has never attempted to ask me for anything, but when we go out, because I know his situation, I feel obligated to flip the bill. However, while his financial problem exist, I have never met a more intelligent, emotionally stable man (if that makes since considering his predicament) he says things to me that I’ve never heard before... from a scale of 1-10, he makes me feel like a 20. We’ve never been intimate before physically, but our conversation is so mentally stimulating that he just makes me feel extremely cared for, respected & just wonderful. I like this guy! And he wants to see where this can possibly go, but when he mentions it, I shut down. I have mentioned that his finances are a concern, but he says for me to just hang in there with him, that things will get better. Unfortunately, I’m just use to dating guys with financial means & his lack of has me hesitant to move forward, yet he makes me feel like no one else has ever before. I’m truly confused. He bought me out of my depression & I look forward to talking to him & even seeing him as often as possible, but I don’t want to be the one paying for everything & the person taking care of everything. So I ask myself, “is money that important?”
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