I need help...I don’t think I’m being too cold but I’m just not sure. Dated this girl for two months (amazing dates, great connection, great sex, she came on strong and had stronger interest than me, had me as her phone background, etc) then suddenly one day after a zoo date she started backing off a lot. Less responsive, sometimes wouldn’t answer messages. As this happened my interest level I think became way higher than hers. I’m not sure why she backed off but it could’ve been that I was either too available/comfortable or I didn’t ask her to be exclusive (doubt this is it though because I constantly showed that I cared through my actions). I also suspect she has avoidant attachment, because her dad cheated on her mom when she was in high school and then divorced. I know she didn't speak to her dad for a few years at least.
Anyways, after she went cold, I asked her out two weeks in a row and got a BS excuse both times so I assumed she lost interest and I stopped contacting her. She started to reach out to me after a few weeks, sending random snapchats of her dog or food she was making, once a week. I responded with short but polite messages and never got a response to those... Recently, she has started to reach out more often, sometimes with random things like funny animal videos or more personal things like pictures of a national park we once talked about visiting . We will go back and forth with 1 or 2 short polite messages and the conversation will end. I’m not cold but I don’t exactly make it seem like I want to have a long drawn out convo like when we dated.
Where do I go from here? “No contact” has worked so far as she is “reaching out” more but I don’t want to seem like I’m too cold. Do I ask her out again or continue no contact and only respond with brief messages when she sends me stuff...since she rejected me twice already. I wish I could I say I could just move on but it has not been that easy since we had a strong connection. Thanks for reading
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