I think I've started to give up on dating. Some background, I'm a 29 yo male and I've been "officially" single for 3 years since coming out of a 4 year relationship. I have dated casually since then, but have not been in a committed relationship since 2017 which is partially my fault, I'm not denying that. I've been on Hinge, Tinder, and OKC for a year now off and on. I go most of my days not worrying about being single, then suddenly I get this lonely feeling and FOMO into swiping. It seems like the vast majority of people on these apps are either full of shit, basic as fuck, or just have these ridiculous standards or expectations. I have no idea what to do about it, or where to meet people as I get older, especially in this hellscape we're currently living in.
I'm a decent looking dude, I have fashion sense and good hygiene, I'm easy to talk to, fun to be around, got hobbies & interests (some niche, but not super out there), a life, a sense of humor, make good money, and I think I'm pretty down to earth for the most part. I'm not Prince Charming, but I mean what the hell. I have trouble conveying my personality to a total stranger through the internet sometimes, unless we really click, and it's worse when you can't even get your foot in the door to get to know each other. Seems like everything is black/white these days and there's no middle ground unlike when you meet someone in person and get to have a real life conversation.
In real life we could have a discussion about things that are important to each other and, you know, compromise which is usually what the whole date thing is about. But it feels like with online dating if you don't match a certain unrealistic fantasy person then it's "thank you, next" and that first date never comes. Look, I'm not looking for some 10 Tinder Dating Tips pulled from BuzzFeed, I'm just saying I'm getting fed up with the current online dating climate (not to mention the algorithms and shady subscriptions). I don't know if its just where I'm at, or just the types people who are drawn to these apps or what.
I will say I've met nice girls on them in the past, and and have had flings, but every time I get back into it it feels like digging for buried treasure with a plastic spoon. Does anybody else feel this way?
Edit: fixed the wall of text lol
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