30F, petite, smart, attractive.
I was talking with this guy I met off a dating app (our pictures both accurately portray what we look like and we zoomed so no surprises) and who also happened to go on the same trip as me in college but we never met during. Thought he was a nice, safe kinda guy. Not the best texter and maybe sometimes a little awkward. More clean cut and average than my typical type of date but hey! Broaden your horizons right?
Anywho, we had texted over the break and decided to meet up in person to make dinner at his place. It was a little awkward, like first date awkward but conversation was decent and ended up watching a movie after the meal. We had some banter back and forth and glimpses of humor from him but hard to tell. There were a few moments I thought were a bit odd where he asked me to make him a drink or pick the movie and sort of just tossed the remote my way but considered them his quirks, made a joke of it, and didn’t think anything of it. But he made it a point to like touch my arm or my leg when we were having a laugh so I figured there was something.
Ended up getting super tired during the 2nd movie and had to call it a night. I didn’t want him to think I ran out on him so I texted him the next day to let him know I had a nice time and apologize for cutting out so fast.
He said he had fun too but brushed me off a bit. So I asked if he wanted to meet up this week and he said he was swamped at work. So I told him to shoot me straight if he wasn’t interested rather than run me around which he did, said there was no chemistry.
Here’s the thing that’s frustrating me is he’s like an average nice guy, we had decent conversation, we have this weird connection from college, and I thought there was enough of something to warrant a second date. I thought having some past connection and a relatively fun time would have at least give me the decency of him to be like “hey had a nice time but not interested” instead I had to pull it out of him. I feel like more recently, I end up finding someone I can chat with which is rare but then end up literally feeling crazy because there’s “no chemistry.” Like I didn’t feel a massive, knock me over spark either but I’m willing to build connection. What am I supposed to do? Jump someone’s bones on date one so they feel something? Am I crazy? Maybe I’m the boring one?
Here’s to venting. Dating is such a pain.
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