So I think I get too analytical about dates. I’m dating this guy and it’s going well. He’s the first guy that has shown real compassion and understanding.
The problem lies that we’re very different in our likes and dislikes and knowledge of things.
And that’s a problem because I view all of these things as a pro or con. I realized I was just looking for someone who had the same past and likes and dislikes as me. Which while nice to have a basis of conversation I don’t know if that or having very similar interests is better for long term compatibility. So I’d be curious to hear your opinions on that.
For example I was showing him some of my favorite tik toks and one raga I find extremely funny he didn’t get the humor and thought the person was weird.
Another example is when I was talking about politics and he had no idea who some large figure was. And my gut instinct was to think oh he’s not as intelligent as me and I can’t carry a convo on with him about certain things.
I think differences can be good but I’ve always had this idea that you need similar humor and emotional intelligence and that is a basis for a good relationship.
As you can see I am possibly pigeonholing myself into a small select number of people by wanting these things.
I would just like thoughts on all this and what you find to be needed to have a good relationship.
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