We share a balcony, so when it's not so cold we would occasionally talk a bit. It seemed like she planned each meeting too, because every time I went out there to chill it seemed like she was waiting for me. The day after we had a decently long talk, I go out on my balcony and she looks absolutely radiant and just stared at me smiling but said nothing. So she wanted to meet me at least, and our talks since have been pretty decent but clipped. Like both people are "well have a good one".. She told me about her ex, things she'd like to do, all that. Once she said "Oh that's weird. My sisters boyfriend is also making chili" on a night that I was cooking. One day she was actually real with me about being frustrated about her dog - an attempt to connect on some level. I think I dropped the ball. I opened up to her a few days later and it seemed like she missed it as well.
Anyway, I realize there are a million reasons why a woman living alone might be worried about a single dude who is into her who lives in such close quarters. So I pretty much just try to be cordial and polite when I see her. She does this thing where when she runs into me - instead of talking to me, she talks to her dog in a sweet, you know... talking to a dog voice.
We also run into each other a lot. Not creepin on her I swear. Just a coincidence. It did seem like on Thanksgiving, which I'm pretty sure she spent alone, she had waited for me to get back to the apartment when I ran out for a sec. Probably a coincidence. Every time this happens I am so afraid of all the variables that could go wrong that I just remain very very casual with her. I give her my polite, front facing self. I hide my attraction extremely well.
Anyway I am overthinking this. My feeling is she saw potential for at least a friendship, or she was interested when we first met but we just failed to connect deeply enough during our conversations. She is very much my type in looks and personality, from what I've seen.
Would it be weird to ask her if she wants to go for a walk or something? At least I would know that if she turns me down I can move on. Maybe we are just two magnets forcing each other away, rather than attracting, as I notice avoidant and anxious traits in her. She has an excellent front-facing, casual personality but I do think if I was real with her when seeing her in passing she might give me a chance. As far as I know she just hangs in her apt and walks her dog.
I dunno. Quarantine + my mind is making things weird. Any advice? I really just want to see if anything happens already, because I am very rarely attracted to anyone.
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