So we've been on 6 dates and have rather quickly progressed to a full-blown relationship. After 3 dates we were pretty much exclusive and he'd given me a key to his place, which I thought was a little premature but okay. He seems like a pretty great guy, very gentleman-y and kind. But I started to notice he has a jealous side as well. Now I'm not used to dating jealous men, so I might be overreacting a bit, hence my posting here on Reddit.
Anyways, his jealousy presents itself in asking what my plans are everyday, and if I'm going out for drinks or not. He told me he doesn't like me talking (or flirting, which are pretty much the same for him it seems) to other men. He also wants me to stop seeing my ex, who I've been with for 10 years and we're still great friends. I can get that me being friends with an ex is really weird, and I'm willing to see less of him because of the guy I'm dating (we split because we realized we were better of as friends than as a couple, and I was the one who initiated the split). He also asks me a lot of questions about men in particular, like who I'm seeing, who called me on the phone, if I meet with a friend his first questions is: did you ever date this guy or had sex with him? Which I think are pretty weird, but oh well everyone has their quirks I guess?
So onto the argument: we were just texting as usual during the day when he suddenly texts his day has been busy and he's been having a battle in his head. He's said that before, which he explained as: I'm thinking about you a lot, and then I also realize that you could potentially hurt my feelings (reference to me occasionally meeting with my ex or other men). So I just texted back saying that battle sounded so negative, and that I hoped that there were also so positives. After that his texts got a bit colder and shorter, so I asked him repeatedly if something was wrong and that he could talk to me about it, which he brushed away saying he didn't. Texts got even colder still, until he just said he was going to bed. Now at this point I'm completely clueless and re-reading texts to see if I missed anything, but honestly I can't find what would've set him off. The next morning, still nothing.
I'm getting a bit pissed because I kinda expected some explanation as to why he's behavior had changed. So my inner drama queen just couldn't take it and I texted 'well if you're just gonna sulk in silence don't bother texting me today'
Phew, after 5 minutes I get bombarded by a shitton of texts on how I'm making things worse, why I didn't just call him last night because CLEARLY he was feeling bad and I wasn't being supportive. I mentioned I did ask him that, but apparently that wasn't enough and I had wronged him in some way. He even threatened to just end things if this was how I was handling this situation etc.
We kinda talked it out over the phone, and I said sorry for ultimately not knowing how he was feeling even though he gave me literally zero input. Now I'm not used to this kind of drama, but like I said he's a great guy otherwise. Help me, Reddit: am I overreacting for questioning his character, or should I take this as a big red flag?
tl;dr: I showed too little support without knowing the issue, boyfriend got pissed
(sorry for the ridiculously long post)
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