I (F26) developed a crush on this older guy (M40) I met during my last internship. He was my go-to person when I had questions and voluntarily helped me a lot even though he was not my official instructor. I am also not considering to apply for a job there, so it is likely we would not see each other again after all this. We clicked instantly during my time as an intern as we had common interests, talked about different topics and he even drove me home occasionally. He is also more of the grumpy type of guy who was surprisingly very patient and nice to me. Sounds very cliche, but that made me crush hard lol I also did not know he was forty, he looks much younger tbh
So after my internship, I took all my courage and randomly asked him out for drinks one evening. He told me he would like to go but explained he had to step in for night shifts that week (which is a thing since we‘re in healthcare). We left it at that (and I was a tiny bit dissapointed he didn‘t reschedule but then again I was kind of very specific about that one evening when I asked). We saw each other again a week or so later when I said I’d bring over some baked goods and he was visibly happy to see me and even went for hugs which was very new. He then suggested we should really go for drinks when I‘m in town and that I should text him when I‘m free. And guess what, I asked again a week later to see if he‘s free just for him to say he was busy from that to that day BUT he didn‘t suggest any alternative dates. Again. I am taking this as a rejection. Or have I missed anything? Is this an age gap thing? It‘s been days with occasional random small talk over text and nothing more, but we generally don‘t text much.
As I was too chicken to ask directly if he had a gf/bf, I‘m not too sure about his relationship status. I am very sure though that he is not married. We even talked about him wanting kids and other random things, but never did he mention anything along the lines of seeing someone or a LTR. I even asked about what he did on vacation or weekends and his evening plans. No hints of someone special. He mentioned visiting a female friend once.
I am just realizing now that my signals might have just been friendly (and I‘m fine with being friends!). But I did ask him out. And I‘m really shy about this. I‘m also scared I missed his rejection and am annoying him. What should I do? Quietly move on?
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