Hi,
During my first relationship, I was extremely anxious and was overthinking it the whole time. Eventually, he left me for other reasons, and he was actually quite harmful to me. So it didn’t help my anxiety, but this anxiety was there. I was too worried about every detail, I was overthinking my texts, I was even more shy than I’d like to be.
So I’ve waited about a month before dating again, it was last night. The guy was amazing, but I was really in my head and ended up being very introverted and concerned. I feel like he didn’t like me that much the day after, and I’ve just texted him and this act only gave me anxiety. I don’t even think he will respond because I could clearly see he felt the bad energy and just didn’t enjoy me that much, and he didn’t text all day when he was very talkative before meeting.
So here I find myself realizing that I take no fun in dating, that I over analyze and that I can feel so deeply anxious and unwell when the whole point is having fun. And I don’t know what to do about it.
When I get flirted with outside of the dating context, when I’m not necessarily interested or when the line between friendship and flirting is blurry, I have no issue at all. But when it’s an actual date and I get to know the person, I transform and feel so bad. It really sucks because that guy was amazing but he can’t be interested in me when I wasn’t being myself anyways.
I’m open to any advice you might have !
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