I've (26F) been seeing Henry (40M) for about four months now. Before anyone says anything, I didn't know who he was or how old he was when I asked him out. I'm new to the state we both live in, which is why I had no idea who he was.
Things are going well. We're exclusive but have kept our relationship private for the most part (he's met my best friend, and I've met his best friend), and are taking things slow. We go on a date or two a week, and sleep over at each other's places on occasion. We were both surprised that we've gotten on so well and that this has turned in to something serious. I like him a lot and could see this being long-term or permanent.
There's one hitch. Henry is a public (elected) figure in our large city. He is well known and is somewhat of a controversial figure. Our fields of work overlap--he is not my employer, and I don't work for the government at all. But things he is involved in tangentially effect my work. All of my coworkers and colleagues know who he is because of this effect. All of my friends know who he is, because he's on the news with some regularity. Which brings me to my point: if we pursue something serious, it will almost certainly impact me professionally and socially. Not necessarily in a bad way, but I'd be known for my relationship rather than my professional contributions. And, if things went south, who knows what would happen at work.
I'm probably overthinking things, but I don't know if this is a real issue or not. Henry is a really great guy and I enjoy our time together. Any thoughts from y'all?
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