Hey there. I'm a fairly socially anxious high school senior and could use some advice. I'm a dude for reference. Also I'll establish that I'm not fat hideous or smelly, I'm ironically not at all worried about people being physically attracted to me.
Alright so, there's a fairly pretty and nice girl that I just started sitting next to in class today. We'd sat near eachother previously and exchanged some words but nothing really substantial. I just think she's fairly cool and am thinking of asking her out. I'd like to emphasize I don't really know her or what she likes or anything and that idk her social media at all, and that I have absolutely 0 irl friends. I had one class with her last year but we never interacted there afaik.
Few things. A lot of the subtleties may be lost online so apologies in advance. I'll try to explain my main thought processes, and how I'm probably overanalyzing everything.
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There's another guy in class I've seen her talk to before and she is normally fairly quiet. This morning she also waved him over to our table. Idk if they're dating or into each other or just friends.
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She was pretty nice to me and shared a document that I had missed yesterday because I was absent. Definitely just her being kind but I wanna paint the full picture and this is something I can't get off my mind as dumb as it is.
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I'm afraid that even though it really isn't a big deal if she has a boyfriend or isn't interested, I'll have a few problems on my hands anyway. Mainly that I'll either have to continue sitting next to her and the guy who is potentially her boyfriend or a guy that either likes her or a guy she likes, and that if I do move away it'll be immediately obvious as to why and kind of odd. Also there may not be other seats available in the classroom.
Honestly the biggest concern I have is that I'm simply getting the wrong idea and she is just a good person who has no interest in me. And that if she makes the connection that her talking and being nice to me lead me to ask her out and create awkwardness (even though I'll definitely say ok and not cause a scene if I'm rejected) will lead to her no longer being kind to people and distancing herself from guys because she thinks being nice to them will make them want to get in her pants. Also I am admittedly afraid of asking her out when I hardly know her and that she'll think I'm one of those guys who just asks any girl out as soon as they're shown any kind if attention. (Can you tell I'm self conscious yet?)
Whew. That was one long ramble. I'm happy to answer questions and stuff. Thanks in advance reddit.
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