Remember I posted 7 weeks ago about my (49) boyfriend ghosted me out of the blue after a 8 month good relationship and knowing each other for a year? Where he told me I was the love of his life, his future was with me and he waited so long to find me he’ll never let me go?? Then 2 days later he disappeared then blocked me?
Thank you fucking Facebook. I just decided to look him up. He posted a picture of himself and new girl. Ok he moved on. Then below he posted what SHE posted about “in a relationship” and it was 2 weeks BEFORE he ghosted me!!!!!! He had to be seeing her for at least a month before he silently dumped me without words. He’s so dumb he maybe didn’t know there was a date attached. Now it all makes sense.
I spent all this time internalizing, feeling horrible about myself, so depressed and heartbroken, replaying our last weeks together trying to find clues, beating myself up, blaming me. I started going to therapy to figure out what I did to make this man run away from a good relationship with me. I even wrote the asshole a letter last week apologizing for my perceived mistakes!
LETS SAY IT AGAIN, HE WAS CHEATING ON ME. No matter what I did or said, it wasn’t me!! Am I relieved I found this out? The answer is only a little. Now I can let myself off the hook, but I have confirmation it meant nothing to him. He just used me to feel good about himself. I knew he was insecure, so he probably wanted someone to love him.
This is the guy that lied for 6 months about living on his dad’s couch and that his nasty previous relationship ended 4 years prior and it was really a few months before he met me. He’s a cop and all he ever did was talk about what a hero he was at work and how he was so looked up to and admired. I barely got a word in.
In conclusion, I should have dumped his ass when I found out he was so adept at lying, not continuing the relationship for 6 more months because of him telling me he’s such a victim of bad women and a tough life, and I was the best thing that ever happened to him and that made me feel really good.
Shame on me for thinking he quit lying.
If a person lies to you, especially about big life stuff, end it immediately! People like that can rationalize anything.
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