I've (31F) have been seeing someone (29M) for about 2 months. He is a very sensitive and honest individual. The feelings are most definitely there. We both feel strongly for one another. We both see very futuristic things between us, mutually. We have so much fun together. We also share many of the same interests and life values.
We both come from divorces within the last year. Mine was last April, his this last July. Both marriages were rough and manipulative. Through many conversations, this guy has opened up about so many deep things that would be difficult for the average person to talk about with anyone. The current situation is as follows...
Recently he has been feeling that he is still not over his ex. He feels he needs some time and space to process his emotions and get some things in his life figured out. He expresses very genuinely, that he truly does care about me. He really can see a future with me. Some things make him nervous (I have 3 kids). He said he really wants to take a large step back and treat things more as a friendship while he works on himself.
He tells me he can truly see things going either way...Either us together forever or friends forever.
I straight asked him, if he could have it his way, with no interference from anyone..what would he want... His answer, "We would be together." He has been very honest that he cannot give me any direct answers right now as to how he thinks this will end up. He cares about me, and doesn't want to give me false hope, which i appreciate.
A lot of what he says in messaging and on the phone etc sounds quite pessimistic. things like "The guy that gets to be with you is so lucky...." or "You will have a great life no matter what." they sound hopeless... There are other things that dont sound as hopeless... like, "I can't kiss you until i figure out my life." or "Maybe one day we'll be together."...
While so much of what he says is very negative and not promising, i can't help but feel some weird sort of hope and knowledge that i am supposed to follow/see this "friendship" through!!!
I am so confused and want to know if anyone has been through something similar!
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