I'm a 23M in the US. I've only had one serious relationship and that was in/just after high school, so it's been 4-5 years now since I've been with anyone. There have been several times of me trying to flirt with or talk to a woman and she thinks I'm gay. Obviously that isn't an insult, but just literally I am not.
I have to think of stereotypes for why people think this. I guess I take care of my hair and skin, like to dress nicely, I'm expressive with my hands when I talk, don't have "straight male interests" like sports or cars, mostly have female friends, and am just not really a tough or confrontational personality. I listen to music like Clairo, Lana del Rey, Lorde, Phoebe Bridgers, Girl in Red etc. I'm in tune with my emotions and am less afraid to show them than maybe a normal straight dude.
I usually feel easier hanging out with women as friends. Men in my experience are always trying to out compete each other and it's always a competition, or someone's always pissed off or aggressive. And Im not interested in the stuff a lotta straight dudes stereotypically talk about like sports, cars, guns whatever. I'm really into hiking/camping etc. is about the "manliest" thing I'm into.
I had so many people for so long saying they thought I was gay that after a point I even started to wonder if I was. In a drunk moment I tried going along with a dude hitting on me once, was totally not into at all and halfway panicked trying. I am definitively not gay and entirely straight, but it's like nobody believes me.
Especially when women I talk to with romantic or sexual interest just don't even register that I'm flirting because they think I'm gay, it's disheartening. But I really can't change who I am either.
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