I met this wonderful guy back in January and we hit it off immediately and started dating. The first month, we saw each other often and he was paying for most dates whilst I'll contribute to a couple of things. Come February and he suddenly had workplace issues and quit as a result of it due to the treatment of management. I knew a little bit about the situation but not a lot. However, in this time we had a date set up and I assumed he was going to be informing me what time he can make it as he usually does. But he did not say anything and basically went silent on me for about 2 days. Obviously this upset me and then he finally came back and told me that he quit his job and would be dealing with a bit of instability at this stage. I thought it appropriate to give him space whilst he worked things through as he was also having issues with landlord at his place. I told him I did not appreciate him ghosting me especially when we had plans to which he apologised for.
Communication during this time was very up and down as before he was incredibly consistent whereas then he became less communicative but insisted that he was still interested in me. He then once went no contact for a week but was still checking my stories on Instagram. I was of course upset but I did not message him in that time. I thought he ghosted so I assumed that we were no more. He came back and explained he went away on a trip and at first I was ready to end things. He explained himself and apologised so I decided to give him a chance again. I only saw him once that month. And once in March. Both times, it felt like we were as connected as ever and I realised how much I liked him. But a big change from Jan when we saw each other once or twice a week for hours on end.
I'll be away for the next month so we won't see each other but I can see he's made more effort to communicate with me as I told him I need transparency and urged that he let me know if he's no longer invested in this. Or let me know if he's going to have a busy period. I continue to give him space but note that our communication is not the same as it was when we first started dating. He still maintains that he wants me but he's going through hard times and is trying to stabilise but will continue to make effort where he can.
We now speak once every 2/3 days and he would apologise for not returning sooner as he started a new job working with multiple double shifts. I'm wondering now, is this a new normal I should accept or am I settling for nothing? Should I be expecting more? I want more, but I don't want to act selfishly if he's genuinely struggling with life and hope once it stabilises, it'll go back to normal again. I would like to hear everyone's experiences dealing with a partner that is going through rough patches and how they communicate.
TL:DR New relationship where dating/communication has fallen due to work/renting issues. I really like him but not sure if this is what I want in life. Is this to be expected and should I continue with this?
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