This probably gets asked a few dozen times each day, but - how can you tell if someone's attracted to you? Or rather: how can I tell if he's attracted to me?
There's this guy I used to hang out with before our current pandemic, James. We met at a Linux convention (and yes, I'm a girl). We became friends very fast and went on weekly coffee "dates", though of course we both insisted they weren't dates. I had a boyfriend then, and even though James flirted with me very casually, it was always playful and non-serious. We were having fun and my boyfriend at the time liked him too, so we often hung out together as well.
After my boyfriend broke up with me, I had a lot more free time and not many friends, so I did end up spending more time with James. It wasn't until then that I started to notice his attention more. He's always reassured me that he doesn't want to date me and just wants a friend, but if I'm honest with myself - that was maybe just for my peace of mind, and I actually have no idea how he really feels about me.
We haven't seen each other in a while, and tonight he's been blowing up my phone with silly memes, trying to cheer me up, because he knew I've been a bit depressed lately. He's been sending me lots of hearts and kisses and I really don't know what to do. Do I tell him that I'm into him?
I have a history of mistaking friendliness for attraction, and James is very flirty and attentive with everyone around him. I'm scared of making a fool of myself here. Should I just carefully test the waters? How?
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