Firstly… Some background info I’ve (23F) been seeing a man(27M) I met on Hinge for almost two months. We had sex on the first date, and I kind of regret it because I think he sees me as a FWB. We hit it off on the first date, and it simply felt right. He was kinda nervous and said he hasn’t slept with anyone in over a year (since him and his ex broke up). This made me feel secure knowing that he’s not a “fuck boy” who sleeps around a lot. We have not declared exclusivity, and as of lately, he seems more distant. He takes longer to text me back and complains about how busy he is all the time, etc. We’ve been hanging out only once a week lately. Sometimes we go on dates, but most times we have movie / game nights at each other’s place. I have not met any of his friends or family nor has he met mine.
This morning after spending the night, I woke up, rolled over, and spooned him from behind. He is on his phone at this point and I THINK I saw him on someone’s tinder page. It looked like a meme or something on a tinder profile. I’m gaslighting myself now, but in the moment I KNEW it was tinder. I was 1/2 asleep though and feel extra paranoid about him leaving my ass. He didn’t frantically exit the page or anything, so that also is making me question what I saw. I wish I would have said something in the moment. Ugh. I have actually messaged people back on Hinge while he’s sleeping. I also slept with someone else a few weeks ago. I do this only because I feel like he might not be that into me. In person he’s super sweet and does a lot of things that indicate that he likes me (cooking for me, telling me I’m pretty or that he likes my outfits, lots of hugs and kisses, etc.), but he just doesn’t give me the constant attention I’m used to when dating. Should I bring up that I think I saw him looking on tinder? Should I ghost him? Should I explain why I’m not replying? Is it hypocritical to be upset? UGHHHH HELP
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