So I used to weigh way too much around 400 lbs and I never bothered dating cause I knew I was unattractive the girls I found attractive are out of my League and it's not fair for me to expect them to look good while I let myself be disgusting. At the start of lockdown I started dieting and exercising all that stuff now I'm at 260 which at around 6ft 1 inch isn't bad but it still needs work and is still ongoing just takes longer now it seems. I still struggle with not constantly seeing myself as a fat loser who women won't have any interest in and my friends tell me otherwise but it's hard to change that perception since I'm still bigger than I'd prefer to be. I'm trying dating anyways because I've seen all my friends rather happy with their own girlfriends over time some are even getting married this summer. My female friends have repeatedly told me that being overweight to m
I started with dating apps because of the whole lockdown pandemic business we had going on. I didn't have any luck I've gotten like 4 likes and they never responded to me even though I tried to make an interesting opener based on something in their bio or pictures like a hobby pet or vacation. I don't really know how to make a good profile. I don't really have any pictures post fat and obviously shouldn't use the old ones. I don't know if I should try staging photos doing hobbies or activities I like or not as that feels kinda wrong. Currently just crappy indoor selfie poctures. Writing my bio is always difficult for me my interests are boring to most people probably especially women. Mostly nerd shit. Comics, sci-fi, D&D, Reading, videogames, Blacksmithing/knife making, archery and shooting at the range. So I'm not sure if putting that in just acts as a repellant and then I'm left with not much to put in there aside from work which is also boring just managing shipping Department for 2 family businesses. All my friends have their gf from high school or college and have no good advice on meeting people.
As for IRL meeting people, other than bars which is the only place the older generation has ever suggested to me I'm not sure where else you should meet people. I'm not really sure it's ok to walk up to women in public to strike up a conversation with all the creeps out now a days and I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable I'm a pretty big dude and I can easily see a women being afraid of me if she has had bad experiences in the past. I'm not afraid of talking to women per say, it's the approach and opening of dialog with strangers that I'm unsure of. I don't know the etiquette or social norms for it. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. Feel free to ask any clarifying questions if you need anything more specific.
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