I’m 27. I’ve only ever been in very short term relationships which have left me hurt. They show initial interest, which over a few months makes me fall for them, and then they always say ‘I can’t fall in love with you.’
I’m not clingy, I’m not needy, I’m caring and kind and I like my body, I work out regularly. I take care of my hair and makeup. I have a good job, friendly and I love cooking, cooking is kinda my love language.. I’m told food is a way to the heart! Haha
When I met my boyfriend (now ex) he asked me about previous relationships. I opened up to him and told me how I’ve often felt unloved in my relationships. He told me that he understands and he’s not like that
At the start of the relationship, I put a lot of effort in, he was new to my country so I was excited about showing him around. He still was supportive and showed me he was very attracted to him. But 3 months in, I realised he hadn’t even taken me on a date or paid for a coffee. I almost felt like his mother, and I was a big source of support for him. He didn’t have much money at all and didn’t have a good job. I had seen his bank account so I didn’t mind because I was starting to love him and cared deeply.
He ended things last week after not communicating anything for two months, he had become very cold and distant with me and I felt like I was annoying him. He told me he hasn’t fallen in love and feels he should have by now. He was crying saying that ‘you’re so lovely.’ We did have some major life differences that came up… he said he didn’t want kids but I did (a long time into the future, not any time soon!). But I know that he wanted a child with his ex who he often talks about but they broke up 4 years ago, says his life goals have changed in that time.
Now I’m worried I’m not lovable. No guy has ever chased me, I’m used to getting ghosted. Every guy I meet says they don’t know what they want in life and that they don’t want kids, so I don’t know if it’s just me they don’t want?
I know my boyfriend treated his ex and he still has photos of them up. He never put photos up of me
Do men need to have their career and life in order before falling in love because I keep dating guys who are still getting on their feet with their life.
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