I(24M) and my friend (23F) have been friends for a long time. I instantly had an attraction to her, but is in a relationship so I buried those feelings. Later I found out her relationship is really struggling and has been for quite a long time. She has consistently put in work and tried different things to make it work but still no results, yet has not left because they live together and have a lot of things tied up together. She is always unhappy though.
A few weeks ago, she told me she had feelings for me and felt awful because of her situation. She had guessed how I felt about her, and wanted to be honest. After talking, we decided it would be best to cut contact, which wasn't easy because we share a large friend group. A lot of other people found out because of this and all decided their opinions were needed, which made things more messy. I don't want to be a crappy person, because I have been through rough situations in past relationships, but since that initial talk we have reconnected and cut contact several other times. It has gotten very confusing and our friends are all upset because they all think we should be together. I have made it known that I respect her relationship and she does not want to be a cheater. She tells me she is trying to get out and find a new place, since she has nowhere else to go and I cannot offer her a room. As time goes on, it just feels like she's pulled closer to me and yet I'm afraid to be around her because I don't want either of us to fall.
Do I have to officially cut all contact, block her on all socials and step away from that friend group? I told her I'd always be there to support her and I just want her to be happy and I don't want to continue to watch her repeat the same mistakes of going back to her relationship, and then being miserable, yet it's hard to ignore my feelings. I want to be an honorable and respectful man, just don't know what to do
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