So typically when, on this sub and others, somebody laments that they are ugly/unattractive and this is causing them problems in dating, people will invariably respond with one of 2 things 1. Attractiveness comes down to taking care of yourself, physically socially and psychologically: do you dress well, workout, eat well, take care of your skin, act confidently and with good social skills, foster interesting hobbies 2. Attractiveness is subjective, if some girl rejected you it’s not because your ugly it’s because your “ not her type” While I understand that there is some truth to these statements, it seems to me that the sub is dismissing allot of peoples real and significant experiences and perspectives . Yes taking care of yourself in all those ways will go a long way to making you more appealing to the opposite sex but some people just will not be considered conventionally attractive by the vast majority of people even if they do all those things. We have eyes, we all know this. It’s not a nice fact or a positive fact but ugly people exist. It doesn’t all come down to subjective preference either. Yes people have different preferences for what they like but some people will find that overall their look appeals to very very few people will others many more. It’s seems callous to me to be dismissing these perspectives and spouting of the points above whenever someone mentions attractiveness difficulties. What is your take on all this?
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