I [24/M] haven't been in a proper relationship and now I've dated a girl [24/F] for two months. I lost my virginity to her and we meet every week. I think she's funny, she's compatible with my life style and I do find her attractive. But at the same time, I have doubts and honestly it really is distracting me.
We haven't really talked about what we're after but it feels as if it's implied that it's not casual. Still in some way it feels like I've convinced myself that I shouldn't commit. Basically my gut is saying no, but for what? It's as if I'm used to being single and I like that life style, that freedom. I like having alone time. What really made me ponder about this is because we said that we have plans for tomorrow, but I'll need to head home early because I start very early in the morning. She said that if I want I can meet her tonight, if we want to sleep together. And my instinctual reaction was that I really want tonight for myself. I just want to relax, and I've made plans to play games with my friend.
That spark, that initial feeling when you meet someone and like the person is not as strong. I do like her, she is a great person but doubt is still there. I wish I could place it, because what if I've just followed a misguided gut feeling and convinced myself I don't want this but we could be great together. I might just not be ready for a relationship. It feels like such a cop out. Either way, I want to communicate this with her but I'm afraid I will botch it by bringing it up.
Honestly, I have no experience with this and I have no idea what I want...
TLDR: I have doubts about a girl I've dated for two months, don't know what to do.
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