So yeah, I'm 25 and a dude and I've been trying to find a relationship this year with various degrees of success. I've been on a first date with about 5 girls and none of those really led anywhere, with most of them ghosting me in the end. I am still seeing one of the girls, but we go on a date like once a month and I honestly don't think it's going anywhere.
Today, I was having lunch with a friend of mine (F23) I've known for some time. We were discussing our lives and whatnot, but then we got to the topic of dating. She told me about a guy that she is currently into and then she asked me about my dating adventures. I told her about my streak of bad luck and then got the bright idea to ask her a ballsy question:
"Can you give me an honest opinion on something? What do you think is it that makes it so hard for me to find somebody? And please tell me anything that comes to your mind, no filter." To which she replied as follows:
"Honestly? Most of the girls I've introduced you to told me that they felt intimidated by you. I think that you come off as very confident and experienced, which can make people feel dumb and inadequate around you. If I didn't know you as a friend and just saw you somewhere, I would think that you're the type of guy who would never even respond to my message. Way out of most people's league."
And I have to say that her answer totally confused me. I don't see myself that way at all - I think that I'm actually painfully average to be honest. I try to dress well and be groomed and clean, but other than that, I am like a 5/10 at best. I would say that I am rather smart, sure, but there are way smarter people than me around. I study English/History teaching and I already teach English on a part-time basis. I'm not rich, I'm not successful, I'm just a regular guy who totally sucks at dating. And after asking my friend for her opinion, I am confused even more.
What do you think about what she said? Is this something that actually exists? And if so, how do I make it so that people are not intimidated by me? I don't try to be better than anybody, I would definitely say that I am not a cocky person. But I've known my friend for a while and I value her opinion, so I want to ask if any of you have an idea what she meant by saying that.
TL;DR: Asked a girl friend about her opinion on why dating is difficult for me, she told me I am intimidating.
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