This is my first relationship so I need a bit of advice and clarity. I started dating a man about 2 months ago. We started off as friends for about 6 months before we began dating. Everything has been great so far; he is the most loving man I’ve ever met and I am so happy when I’m with him. He tells me he loves me so much every day and I just wanna be with him all the time.
Before he started dating me, he was single for about 8 years. During this time he met a great group of guy friends who share the same interests as him and they usually travel to various places over the weekends to do a sport that they all enjoy and are good at. When we were just friends I remember almost never seeing him on weekends because he was always traveling.
However, ever since we started dating, that really hasn’t changed for him. He has been traveling a lot to do this sport with his friends and today I heard him planning to trips for almost every weekend in April. It kind of bummed me out because I do want to have some weekends with him but I know he loves this sport so much and has saved a lot of weekends over the summer to do this sport. I have no experience with this sport and so I would feel awkward intruding on these trips especially when he’s going with his friends and they all have specialized gear that is needed and that they use on these trips. I also don’t have much of an interest in this sport. I met his friends at the same time that I met him so technically they are my acquaintances as well but I’m not particularly close with any of them.
Now I’m overthinking things, and second guessing whether he really is ready for a relationship. How can there be a relationship when we have no time together? Since we both work 9-5s, weekends would be the perfect time to spend together. Of course we hang out certain days of the week but there’s only so much time in a day. Most of the friends he goes with are single as well, so they have no obligation to stay in town. I just feel like I’m caught between a rock and a hard place because I do want him to be happy and do what he loves, but I don’t know how a relationship can progress without having weekends together. Should I talk to him about this? Or is it a sign that the relationship is not going to work out?
TLDR: Boyfriend wants to travel every weekend to go do a particular sport with his friends and I don’t know whether this will break our relationship. Is this something that I should cut off before progressing further?
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