We are both women btw
I had a first date today which was like 8 hours long. We got lunch and dinner, went to her place, and the conversation flowed really well, lots of eye contact, some physical touch, etc.. Throughout the date it was flirty, I felt really comfortable talking to her, and we clearly aligned in terms of many personal and political values. I'm not really a fan of kissing on the first date, but we were cuddling and it could have led to more and I could feel it from her end too
I guess the part I am conflicted about is that she's 1 year older than me and a med student with a super high earning potential, while I'm working full time already in a lucrative field. I invited her out, planned the date, and I paid lunch (it was like a takeout situation and only I went in to buy the food but she didn't mention it afterwards), but I also ended up paying dinner (she did offer to split first but when I said I'll just pay she didn't really argue). It kind of seemed like she expected me to pay? I'm not sure if that was normal because I asked her out. I think I am super willing to pay if the other person seems really grateful but that wasn't exactly the case. Like she didn't really say thank you either which was super weird to me.. I did like her personality otherwise like she was polite, asked me many questions and seemed curious about me, but I also felt like the guy in the relationship the whole date (and I'm like 6 inches shorter than her not that it matters)
But as we were leaving she gave me a romantic hug and said we should meet again, and also texted me immediately asking me to text if I got home safe. Later that night she sent me something funny we had talked about. So it seems like she's interested.. but I'm conflicted about the paying thing. I completely get that since she’s a student and I’m working like it’s really not about the money, but more about making good first impressions to each other and being appreciative. One of my biggest values is kindness and generosity, in terms of being grateful (saying thank you) and acts of service, so I am thinking about it a lot. I'll probably still see her again but wondering if this seems like a red flag to anyone else
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