I 25F met this boy 23M in March, I was immediately attracted to him. However he's a super closed up and I'm assuming shy person, while I'm pretty friendly and kinda touchy. At first when he wasn't really responsive to me (even in a platonic way) I got kinda insecure and started thinking he disliked me but after talking to many of his friends they all confirmed he's just like that and takes a while to open up.
However, now it's been 3 months, we see each other at least a couple times a month due to working on creative stuff together or me supporting his events (we're both musicians/organizers). He still seems super closed off and I'm kinda getting fatigued even on a friendly level, and even more confused/nervous about stating my interest.
The real issue is that he doesn't make any type of effort to talk to me or get to know me, while I actively see him being way more friendly with others even people or women he just met. Whenever I get around or join a group conversation he goes completely silent and doesn't look at me or make any attempts to talk, also any time I've tried to talk to him alone he keeps it as brief as possible or walks away super quickly. Which is obviously why I'm thinking he hates me, but I know he doesn't because he still invites me to stuff or is kind in small ways (like I told him I had a cut and he immediately offered to get me bandaids), overall agreeable and open minded when it comes to us working together. So at this point I'm not sure how to move the relationship forward without being weird. I'm fine with taking things slow, I actually really prefer that, but I want to do something to maybe show that I'm interested so I can gauge his response? Or should I just assume if he wanted to he would and let the idea leave my mind? I feel like the window to make something happen is passing.
Also on my end, I'm pretty sure he isn't aware that I like him. I'm autistic and can be come off as pretty flat or disinterested sometimes as well as struggling with eye contact unless I actively try. That combined with not wanting to make him uncomfortable I'm aware that I probably am giving off super platonic vibes myself.
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