Me and this guy went on one date last October. We got on well but I had issues so I declined his asking me out on subsequent dates. However we continued to talk throughout the year. Then one day he randomly asked me if I wanted a casual hookup type thing bc I had mentioned it once offhand, and I said no, and that he could go check tinder for that. But then a week later I messaged him and we continued to talk. He's very responsive to me and things never even get remotely sexual bc I told him I hate when guys are like that. He often sends me lots of pics and tries to keep the conversation going, but then will stop abruptly sometimes too. But he is always very sweet about everything. Never gives me a hard time about it.
Then covid happened and we talked even less, but it was more hot and cold texting. So we are from different countries, but we both lived in a third country for school/work. And he has been in his home country working from home. However I will be back in the country we both lived in pretty soon. Anyway, we hadn't talked for a month, and a couple weeks ago I get a random message from him asking how my summer was going, how I was, etc. And I responded just saying "looks nice!" and that was it. It was cold I know, but I felt hurt that he didn't talk to me in a month and then acted like nothing happened.
So after that we haven't spoken, but I saw he posted 3 wahtsapp stories over the last two weeks which he rarely if ever does, we only follow each other on whatsapp and no other social media. Then I saw via my instagram explore section that he posted a pic looking happy. We do not follow each other so he wouldn't know I'd see it. But he also never posts pics of himself really like that. So then, this weekend I posted a story and he responded to it immediately. I wrote back a couple days later. And he read/followed up asking me a personal question about something I had said. And I responded and he also read that as soon as he woke up.
I realize that I had started off things in a confusing way, but as time went on, I did initiate half the time, ask how he was, and pull my weight. Yet I was still getting somewhat hot/cold from his part: him clearly trying to continue the convo, but then just abandoning abruptly. I am only interested in making things work if it seems like he wants to, otherwise I don't want to do a casual fling. But I'd like to know your opinion on what it sounds like his deal is, so I can prepare before I ask him.
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