There is this really attractive girl I know from university. I asked her i she liked to go out, drinking a coffee. She said yes and so we had a coffee after our lectures. We had a nice evening, had a very vivid conversation, fooled around and after 3 hours at the coffee-shop we took a walk through the park for another one and a half hours. After that evening we texted every day and she seemed really interested in what i did, asked a lot of questions by herself. At that point I was definetly turned on by her looks, liked her felt comfortable with her. But wasn't too emotionally einvolved. After all there are a lot of other girls in our course and i got to know some of them that were about equally interesting for ne at that point. Few days after our evening at the coffee shop we went to a fancy burger restaurant and again had a nice evening, fooled around and again had a walk for hours. I started to feel more and more comfortable in her company and the other girls started to get less interesting. Last Sunday evening I asked her if she wanted to come over to watch a movie. She offered me to come over to her place instead. So i went to her place. Kind of excited i have to admit. I mean she wouldn't want to have me over at hers if she wasn't at least a bit interested in me aswell, right? RIGHT? After all it was our third "date" if you want. So you bet I felt things were getting kinda serious now. We were sitting on her bed, talking, fooling around, had a good time. I made a little physical contact here and tickled her a little there... we had these fun-fights, that easily end up in... well what i hoped for on that evening. Ok, that didn't happen but we had a lot of physical contact which she at least did not seem to find inappropriate. We sat there and fooled around in her bed for a whole 5 hours until about 1am after that i hugged her for goodbye as we always do and went home. A little confused as i had hoped for at least a kiss at that evening. I mean why would she spend so much time in such a high frequency with me if she didn't like me? And goddamn now i was sure that i wanted her. The following days i couldn't get her out of my mind and the intensive texting continued. Today we met after her work and because there was nothing else i could think about in the time between sunday night and then, i asked her if she considered the thing going on between us as friendship or if there might be room for "more". And well... what can i say she said the she considered all we did as completely platonic and that she rather sees me as a friend and would like to keep it that way as she was just out of a relationship and wasn't open for something new yet. Now i could start to complain about how i'm the shiny nice guy that never get's the girl because they're only after assholes that mistreat them... but ... I'm just to old to go through that foolish mindset again. I'm just really pissed off about how emotionally involved i am now about a gir that saw the whole thing going on as platonic friendship from the beginning on. Why would she spend so much time with me that i started to establish these false hopes. And i ask myself if it way stupid to establish them or if the signs she gave me were just too "good" to come to the conclusion that she is absolutely not interested in me?
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