So I (24M) was seeing this girl (21F) for about a month now. We met on Hinge and hit it off immediately. We were texting constantly every day since I got her number a month ago. Went on 3 dates total in this time since our schedules were quite busy.
Date one was very good, talked for hours over dinner. Date 2 we went to an art exhibit, dinner, then back to her place and cuddled and made out all night, but didn't hook up. We both agreed that we were looking for something serious that night. 3rd date was this last Tuesday, and was planned to be a cooking/movie night at her place. Before date 3 she would text me stuff like "I miss you", "I'm really looking forward to seeing you again", "I really like you". She almost canceled date 3 because she was stressed with work and need to get a lot done before she left for a trip this weekend. I asked if she was still interested in general and replied that she was "extremely interested still". Told me I could come over because she wanted to see me but she would be a mess and we could just order food in. We opened up a lot and got quite vulnerable with each other, and told me she wasn't seeing anyone else either.
She brought up a few sexual topics that night, and looking back I feel like I missed some obvious signals. I wanted to make a move, but her stomach wasn't feeling well and she was clearly stressed from work, so I didn't try to initiate sex. Ended up cuddling in her bed and falling asleep together. I woke up around 1am and said I had to leave because I had work early in the morning. Every time I tried to get up she would ask for 5 more minutes and beg me not to leave. Felt like everything was going great!
When I got home I texted her that I really like her and she replied she likes me too, goodnight, the usual stuff. That was the last text I've gotten from her. Its been 3 days and hasn't replied to my other text asking her out again either. I'm feeling pretty used/lead on at this point. I thought we were both really into each other/ wanted more than just a casual hook up, but I cant help but feel she is done with me because we didn't hook up. I know she said she would be very busy this week with work, family stuff, being out of town, doctors stuff, etc. but I know no one is too busy to send a single text if they are truly interested.
Anyways, getting ghosted sucks, and I'm kicking myself for not making a move Tuesday. Not really looking for advise I guess, I'm moving on and its up to her now if she wants to reach out, but I doubt that will happen. I also find it really funny that she is a professional life coach/therapist and this is how she handles her own personal issues lol.
TL;DR: Went on 3 dates with someone I thought was really into me and looking for a serious relationship, but now she's ghosting me because I think she wanted sex and it didn't happen.
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