I (24m) have been dating this girl (21f) for about about one and a half months. We met on a dating app, got along great and went for a date in the beginning of January. We really clicked and got along extremely well: same interests, views and so on. What was supposed to be a coffee date turned into 11 hours together and we really got to know each other a lot, talking about all kinds of personal topics. Our next dates were equally intense, three dates over 5 days.
At the end our third date she revealed she was moving away to another city in the fall and we talked about how we would handle it. She said she can't do ldr, it was pretty emotional, we both said we really like each other and could see something long term if it weren't for the move. We agreed to date for the time she's here and she said she wants to take things slower.
The following date a few days later went well and we agreed to another the next week. Two days before she said she has to postpone it due to family stress and her period starting, she sounded very sorry and like she had cried in her voice note so I accepted it for that and said it's not a problem at all and to take her time and offered to talk if she wants to.
She messaged me a few days later saying things were fine again and since I had to travel the next week we agreed to go on another date two weeks later, which would be on Valentine's. The day before she sent me a voice message saying she was offered a shift at her job and can't come to my city because of that (we live an hour apart and the train connection is pretty bad), so she said if we should postpone or if I want to come to her (I have a car). I said I want to see her and agreed to go to her city. We met, had dinner together and watched a movie. Everything was great as usual, good conversation, she was engaged and interested and while walking she took my arm. Up until that point we'd only hugged and she had kissed me on the cheek for goodbyes. When I drove her home after the date she fell asleep on my shoulder. When we arrived she thanked me for being so understanding and putting in the effort, kissed me and I gave her some roses I had stashed in the car, she said that was so sweet and kissed me again before leaving.
The next day I sent her a voice message saying I really enjoyed the date and asked her to message when she's free again. She replied saying she really enjoyed it too, thanked me for the roses but said that she's very busy this week plus school friends from far away are visiting so she doesn't know when she's free yet but will check in.
5 days passed and no update from her. Since I have to leave for a two day trip for a project sometime soon but am free to decide when I go, I decided to ask her how it's going and if she has any info so I can plan my trip. She replied that she doesn't have time on the weekend and is very busy next week and that I can go when it's convenient for me. I replied that's alright and that I'll be going over the weekend then and asked if she knows a day when it would work. She replied no, she sadly doesn't since it's so busy. That was the end of our conversation for now.
I don't know how to interpret this. Is she genuinely busy or is it something else? She does seem to have a lot on her plate (she's an art student, has a lot of friends who she's loyal to and works shifts sometimes including weekends but none of these are really mandatory for her, especially uni which she doesn't really have to do anything for usually but still does), she's not that good at time management I think and has said that it stresses her out and apologized before about ruining the vibe by talking about it, which I replied to that it's not an issue at all and that I value that we can talk about things like that.
I'm really unsure right now. I understand that she's busy and stressed out, but at the same time I think it's weird that she can't make any time for me at all. I mean I'd be fine with just going for a coffee or getting something to eat during her lunch break or something. She also seems to have time for her friends, which is also fine, we've only been dating for a short time so I understand I'm not her highest priority and friends are different than someone you date, but still.
I don't want to pressure her into anything especially when she's stressed. We don't really text between dates so it would be quite a long time before we have contact again, which worries me. What should I do?
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