Hey everyone,
I hope you can help me with your advice. TL:DR and questions below.
Warning long story ahead
A little Background for the story:
So as you can already see in the title I am M21. I haven’t had a relationship or even kissed a girl until last Friday. The girl this is about is the ex bestfriendforever of my sisters and is 18 years old, let’s call her Julia. I know Julia since my sister and her meet in the 5th class, so around 8 years ago. Being the bff of my sister, I saw her quite often and one year we went on holidays together. We always had a good time and even though I was the brother, i think you can say, that we were good friends. After 5 years or so (3 years ago, I am not sure) Julia and my sister had an argument and they split apart. I still saw her occasionally at birthdays, party’s etc. over the years and we always ended up chatting and overall having a good time together compared to her and my sister.
That’s it for the backstory. Coming to the more recent events.
One month ago my sister and Julia had their graduation party. We saw us briefly before the party, hugged each other and complimented us about how good we looked in our fancy ball clothing. Later that evening Julia and I only had a small chat, about not seeing each other in a long time and my sisters current argument with her bf and other nonsense.
Coming to the last Friday, I had agreed to a friend to come to his company’s event for a talk about finances. I didn’t know Julia agreed too, but I was relieved to see a familiar face when I entered the building. We chatted a while and listened to the talk, because we didn’t know anyone else on this event except our mutual friend. After the talk we decided to go to a local bar with our friend and his coworker to take one beer. Well it became a few beer, we danced and had some fun and after around an hour and a half my friend and coworker had to leave, but Julia and I agreed to stay a little longer and take the bus back home. We ordered another beer and danced some more. Now you had to know, that I haven’t had something to eat except a few sweets at the event and drank a little more than planned - not enough to loose control - but enough to dance more "offensive". I reached for her hips and pulled her closer and Julia responded with her pulling me closer aswell. We continued dancing and ordered another beer. After another real close dance Julia laughed about the weird last song that played during our dance and my brain went "fuck it" and I kissed her. Being the inexperienced, drunk person I am engage in some tongue action (don’t ask me why, don’t ask me if it was good, I don’t know) and Julia actually responded with her tongue aswell. After that kiss we left the bar and Julia reached for my hand while we were waiting for the bus we kissed again, this time is Julia the one, that engaged with the tongue. On our ride home we were cuddling and started to feel how much we had drunk that night. I brought her home and we kissed again one last time and agreed to meet again the next day.
But the next day I had to catch my train back home (I study in another city) and we didn’t have the chance to meet again.
I will come back in two weeks for a party and I asked her if she is going to be there to, but she can’t come. Now that I have to learn for my exams I can’t really come back in between the weeks either. And only have a few days around two weekends, where I am invited to a birthday party of my family.
Ok, reading this again I get the feeling I should start to write novels and not "need advice posts". I also get the feeling, that I couldn’t really express my actual questions. But because this took some time to write and I hate deleting 30 mins of formatting on reddit mobile this will stay and I will write a shorter version and a TL:DR down below followed by my actual questions. Thank you for reading this and if your really did the work and read the whole post I owe you my sincerest thanks and want to thank you in advance for helping an inexperienced guy.
Short version: I meet the ex bff (Julia) of my sister on a mutual friends company event, we always were "good" friends (well I am the brother of her bff, so yeah good friends?). She and my sister split apart after 5years of good friendship and I meet Julia a few times on other party’s etc. After the event we went in a bar to get one beer and enden up with a few more. I never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl so the next step is more like a leap for me. I tongue kissed Julia after a close dance and we cuddles and kissed for the rest of the night. I cant meet her in the next weeks, because I live in another city.
TL:DR Never kissed a girl before and than engaged in tongue action with the ex bff of my sister after drinking a few beer.
So for my questions: 1. Is it weird that I like the ex bff of my sister and how can I handle this situation around my sister? 2. Was my drunken behavior actually that weird? Especially if we both engaged after I kind of smashed the ice? 3. What can I do to meet her again, should I ask her how she felt about the evening?
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