TLDR; Girl from work approached me, has a (Ex) boyfriend and I don't know if I should make any moves given the situation.
Recently a girl I know from work (we work shifts so we work together sometimes but not too often) texted me via Instagram asking me to hang out some time. I gave her my number to text me because I don't like the insta messenger. She immediately texted and suggested the next day. We met up, I had the early shift next day so I didn't want to stay that long so I told her to just meet at this bar I frequent so I could just get home at some point and she could stay if she wanted to, as to not shorten her evening out just because I had to work. She then told me, she would go when I did. Then she offered to pick me up and drive me there, which I wasn't sure about since I drive like 95% of the time and always pick up my friends/dates/acquaintances but then agreed. We walked through the streets a little then went to the bar, had a little chat and now this is where it gets tricky.
Turns out she has a boyfriend, but actually just broke up with him day before, although it's not quite final yet, they might reconcile but right now all she does is rant about him. Her mum and stepdad which she grew up with since her parents divorced, are going through some really nasty divorce ( we're both 20 and my parents got divorced when I was like 3, don't have any contact to my dad right now, neither does she but were cool with that actually, so don't interpret too much into that.)
Because of that she might not have a place to live within the next months (she didn't specifically say that but that's what I took from what she said)
Later two friends of mine joined us because honestly I was a little scared as how to continue from there so I texted them and since they come there fairly often as well we could just pretend I didn't text them.
The evening was nice, we had a lot of fun, then she took me home, the next days we kept texting eachother about regular stuff, talking about work, about family (like the funny family stories about grandparents doing grandparent stuff, not the depressing divorce stories.)
One day she texted me that today was a fucking bad day at work and privately too so I asked her if she wanted to hang out, talk a little, since she said she would like to do so again, and even though she the really early early shift she agreed, so I picked her up since she had ready had a beer (we have a zero alcohol policy among young drivers) and we just drove up the hills to a nice viewing point, which is a common thing to do here, even with your friends or by yourself, talked about all her trouble with colleges (we both are on the lowest bottom level of our workplace and even if she does the work a fucking lot better than I could ever do, I'm a little more confident in dealing with superiors and overall just more "charismatic" as in being able to just talk to people and joking around so I get a lot less shit from our bosses and coworkers than she does, I'm basically everybody's favorite at work, mostly because all my coworkers are 50 year old women and I'm the only male.) and I just tried to comfort her but I don't think I did a really good job.
What's notable about this is that we spent two entire evenings together and didn't touch once, no hugging, no leaning or anything, not even any kind of handshake or whatever when getting out of the car. However tonight I took her to a little party a friend of mine threw. She said she had fun but she did also drink 4 bottles of beer in one hour while nobody else was having more than 1 beer the entire time. After that we went to another friend of mine and just sat on the balcony and had a smoke, we still didn't touch except for when reaching for the ashtray at the same time, which I think happened more often than it would have been expected. I dropped her off at home, we talked a little on the way back, she said she liked my friends but deep down I have my doubts.
So what do you think is she somewhat interested? Does she just need someone to talk? That happens to me a lot, apparently I have a face that welcomes distant acquaintances to tell me their deepest secrets and problems. Honestly I would be OK with that. I never thought of her as a potential date at work before she texted me since she is about 3 leagues above me. Is there a way to tell her I'd be open for anything, but if she just needed a friend to talk to and help her through the bad times that's alright with me as well, since I really like her and just have a lot of fun when I'm with her?
Sorry that turned out to be fucking long read, hope someone actually takes time to read&respond.
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