I am 37 and even though I do not really like to admit this, even to myself, the last time I really asked someone out in person I was a senior in college.
It has been about 15 years since I have had the courage to do it again. I have been on dates since then of course. I have asked out on dating apps, I have asked out in text, I have asked out over email, I have gotten a girl's number from a friend before; but what I have not been able to do in the last 15 years is ask someone out in person.
The reasons are obvious, I am shy, reserved, I do not have a great social life, I am an introvert and a homebody. Those facts are not going to change. Now maybe I can somehow get enough courage to ask women out in person again but those realities to my personality will remain.
To me it is a question of the allocation of resources. Do I expend the emotional and mental energy needed in order to get the courage and conviction to ask someone out in real life?
Or do I focus that energy and time onto my dating profiles, onto my personal life, and into my career? I am not sure what the best use of my limited resources are.
Have any men had a healthy dating life despite never growing the courage to ask people out in real life? Do other people think I can still get plenty of dates despite my inability to ask out in person?
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