So I (29M) met this girl (30F) a few months ago through friends (known each others existance before but never actually met) at a friends birthday. We ended up clicking over drinks, played and won a few games as a duo which helped us get along - chat was flowing, she was touching me in passing and stuff, kind of gave me a very brief shoulder rub at one point out of the blue. Nothing more happened that evening but we connected on instagram and had a few messages here and there since.
I was going on holiday a few weeks later and I jokingly invited her out, she ended up replying to my story in a playful way saying I left without her ..etc
We had a big party that we were both going to recently, usual messaging beforehand in the build up to it but nothing special. Ended up on the dance floor, we made out early into the night but didn't think much of it at the time as we were both drunk, she ended up making out with another guy later that night. Nothing else happened with them as I know she went home later with the person she was staying with.
The next day, our large group had a BBQ which we were both at. At this point, I'm not really feeling or knowing where I stand (was it just a drunken kiss, is she into me?) but she ended up sitting quite close to me all afternoon and into the evening, eventually lying down on the sofa next to me with her head in my lap (pretty much chatting for most of it if we weren't talking in a group).
I had 2 friends that were also crashing at mine (gay couple) who jokingly invited her back to mine, she agreed and left the friend she was staying with (not in a bad way, the friend was crashing at the BBQ house).
Got back to mine, opened up a bottle of champagne, all 4 of us at this point had some ice cream but eventually my two friends went to bed and it was just me and the girl in my living room at 3am drinking champagne. Conversation still flowing well, we ended up talking about this random thing we both liked and she recommended a documentary so we turn Netflix on and at this point we're cuddling on the sofa watching. About an hour in, we're both tired so we turn the TV off, she turns her body to me so we end up making out for a bit on the sofa and eventually move to my bedroom. Offered her a t-shirt so she could change out of her going out clothes, we made out a bit more in bed then she turned away to go to bed. Nothing escalated at this point as I got the vibe that she didn't want anything else to happen that night.
Constantly spooning all night, she's always wanting to hold my hand, wake up in the morning and I gave her a back massage and played with her hair (she loved this).
Gave her a fresh towel, she showered, made her coffee and at this point all is going well. She was flying out that day so I drove her around to pick her stuff up from her friends, then dropped her off at the airport.
At this point, we're just messaging but things get a bit cold over the few days later and I wanted to test the waters. (My two friends (gay couple) that were staying over with me live in another country, we jokingly agreed to go visit them over the summer as we hadn't been before and really wanted to explore, we pencilled in some dates in July over a long weekend and that was it). So in an attempt to test things, I sent her a screenshot of some flights to where our friends live, she seemed keen and we ended up booking flights the same evening or morning after. Once I had validation that she wanted to actually spend some time with me, I was still messaging but things were pretty slow from both ends and a bit dull, not wanting things to die out completely. I ended up just saying I wanted to spend time with her before/after she goes away on her next trip - she said it would be great but she's being careful with the amount of travelling she does because she has a bad back (she lives about 5 hours away by car). I then replied and even offered to drive to see her and she said she really appreciated the offer but wasn't sure when it could happen because she only had a few days in between her first trip (1 week) and second trip (4 weeks).
Again, conversation has pretty much ended but I'm really not sure where I stand in all of this - I offered twice for a meet up, no alternatives coming from her end, she isn't really messaging that much but was happy for us to spend more time with each other? She was never really the best texter, all of our conversations have been quite light, I may have sent a few more messages to see if she would be open to speak more but that hasn't worked and I've not wanted to push.
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