I am 23 years old, but my life is currently on hold because I am sick. I have been struggling with a bunch of anxiety disorders for two years now, feeling progressively worse over time. During this time I’ve also actively always worked on these issues by immediately getting in to therapy as soon as possible and trying to overcome my anxiety which appeared rather suddenly. Things somehow never got better and that’s when we started doing physical tests. Long story short, it turns out I have pretty bad sleep apnea even tho I don’t snore and am not overweight or anything…
Now, this could apparently cause a lot of these issues but getting treatment is taking rather long. And even when I get my treatment and it works then it can take months to sometimes years before I get my energy back let alone overcome my anxiety issues.
Back to my question, when is it okay to date? I’m 23, and I have never had a girlfriend before. I really want to explore this part of life and want a partner but I know I’m not okay at this point. Everytime I do date I make sure to state my situation rather in the beginning so people know what my life is like for now (housebound, trying to survive everyday with all these physical symptoms and extreme fatigue). But I feel like I don’t deserve it :(
Every time I look online for red flags in men, the thing I see most is people saying: “Men who don’t have their shit together, Men who still live with their parents, Men with no stable income, Men who are dependent etc etc). This is obviously understandable but currently I don’t really have a choice given I’m sick. However I don’t wanna refrain from dating because I want to feel that love, and share that love and ultimately my life with someone, obviously without hurting them.
I wouldn’t put my issues on to someone else, let alone the person I’m dating. My problems are mine to deal with at the end of the day. But I feel like such a failure everytime I’m dating because of how my life consists out of nothing right now. Idk what to do, but I’m lost.
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