I met a guy on dating apps a couple months back. In fact it's probably been almost a year of knowing him now but I've been lukewarm with him. We haven't met IRL because of all the covid lockdowns we've have and we are long distance. But it's also because we have only really been friends to start off and he had gotten out of 4 year relationship 5 months prior to meeting me so i was on guard. So I've been okay with this to be honest. We have shared a lot through calls/texts...etc
anyways, I think it's become apparent to me that's he's interested in me for more than friends, but I just doubt his interest or intentions in me and hesitate myself bc we seem to have totally different histories. He's incredibly smart, and ambitious, and that's a side I like about him. But also, he's had 3-4 girlfriends, is very comfortable with his sex life (openly talks about it to me), kissed and done alot with girls, was a popular athlete kid in his highschool times. He claims he isn't a person who wants a girl purely on whether she's hot, or a fuckboy (bc he thinks that's my perception of him) and in fact how shy he is or oblivious he is when a girl is interested in him. He's never made the first move on a girl before! But at the same time, he'll dirty text with me, which I mean is harmless, but makes me wonder if he's only interested in that. He's also had his fair share of crazy experiences, nights out, and parties as most uni students have.
Me on the other hand, I've had a boring/tame life. I'm still a virgin, only kissed/made-out with one guy in my life. NEver had a boyfriend. I've never been to any uni parties or had drunk outings (I drink, but not often with friends). I wouldn't say I was a popular kid in highschool, but I was sort of neutral/middle ground, not someone who i think the popular guys would be into tbh. I had zero social life in uni and it's something I regret so much bc I always focused on my studies bc I was in a rigourous program. Now that I'm working full time, done uni I look back and wish I made more time for more experiences.
Anyways, bc of this, I doubt whether we'd be compatible. I have no crazy stories like he does. It intimidates me his experience and honestly, he's told me some sexual stories he's had with girls, which I'm not sure is normal to be telling a girl you're supposedly interested in. I can't tell anymore. What do I do? Trust he's into me for me? Or that he's just trying to sleep with a virgin? Honestly given my boring life, a friend/guy like him would let me have lots of fun (like nights out, hanging out, not just sexual stuff), which I missed out on. I'm not sure what's normal or what to do, or if I'm just saying this to push him away.
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