It can also be a time of growth, of learning, and even though it hurts like a bitch it is a part of life.
This applies to dating, to friendships, to loved ones of all kinds. It can be as simple as getting ghosted or slowly watching someone drift away or find new people as you desperately try to gain them back.
Recently this is something I've been going through again for what feels like the millionth time. It doesn't really get any easier, I'll be honest. I still cry like a baby and get the urge to beg and plead for the person to stay. But in the end, the last thing you want to lose is yourself and your self-respect, not this other person.
Think about it:
This person is going to leave, with all the good AND bad things about them. All the things you love, and things you don't love about them.
But you're not being left with nothing.
Cause guess what? You have everything you've learned from them, all the good memories and bad, and from this, you know you are capable of being loved in some way.
And on top of that (and this is the most important part) - You still have yourself. You may have lost an important person in your life but you haven't lost your interests, the things you like to do, your talents, and you can really spend this time by focusing on yourself and building your own self-reliance and resilience. Every time you want to text them, go and do something you like, or get some work done so you can feel more productive and not fall behind on life because of grief.
And no I'm not saying to ignore the grief or not to grieve at all. Definitely make time to grieve, cry it out, listen to music or watch tv shows that make you ball your eyes out. But don't let this take over your life.
On that note, build on yourself. Remember you are lovable, they did love you for the things inside of you and you are worthy. Build on yourself instead of letting obsessive thoughts take over. And the best part is that this self-reliance and resilience will only bring better people into your lives.
I hope this helps anyone out there, you're not alone. I'm going through it too and it sucks.
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