I have a friend (24M) who I (23F) have been starting to have feelings for in the last 2 months. We met in college and have known each other for about 1.5 years, but didn't start becoming close until more recently when I ran into him at a friend's birthday and we basically reconnected. In the last 2 months we have been spending more time together, texting, and flirting. I only see him on weekends as we live 2 hours apart. We haven't kissed yet, as I was waiting for him to make a move, but I definitely felt like he was giving signals of being into me, and had become more flirty in the last few weeks. I also believed I was giving him positive signals as well. I was content to see where things go. I think he is more of a shy guy and not the type with a ton of experience with girls.
The other night we went out with a group of friends to dinner and drinks. At dinner, him and I sat together and he was being flirty (touching me while talking, focusing on me in conversation, finding excuses to touch me). I was obviously happy about this and we were talking most of the night. Afterwards, we went out for drinks and dancing. On the dance floor I noticed another girl in our friend group (26F) who suddenly pulled him to the side and kissed him. When I saw, I suddenly felt really sad. I continued dancing with my female friends there and ended up leaving about an hour later. He seemed really focused on her after they kissed and was dancing with her, but still wanted to make sure I got home safely.
I guess I am wondering what I should do at this point. I am not one to compete for guys, and when I saw him showing interest in another girl, I felt like I was supposed to move on because I assumed I just read everything wrong. However, in speaking to 2 of my friends, both said that I should see where it goes. I am not really upset at him or our other friend because I had never told her about my feelings (we aren't close, just in a mutual friend group), and to be fair, since I haven't said anything to him, he could just be uncertain of my feelings. My friends said he is probably into me, and that it could just be that he didn't know how I was feeling, and this girl was more obvious. They also said that she is just like that with guys, so they don't know if she really likes him, or if it was just because of the drinks that the two of them kissed.
What do you think I should do? I think he is into me, and I'm guessing he is also into this other girl, or he liked the attention. Should I just tell him how I feel? Ask him out? Or would that be wrong? I don't have a lot of experience dating, and my only other relationship started off as friends where the guy ended up making the first move, so letting things develop naturally is what feels normal and familiar to me, hence me wanting to reach out for advice. I care about him as a friend too and would definitely stay his friend through either way. Thanks for your advice :)
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