I (30M) was dating a girl (24F) I met through a dating app. Things were great from the very first date. We had a lot in common, sparks were flying, and we both wanted something long term. The date went so well that she brought me back to her place afterwards to get intimate. After about month of seeing each other, I decided that the next time I saw her I would ask her to be my girlfriend. We had plans last Friday, however on Thursday she blocked my number and my social media accounts. I was hurt, confused, and questioned my own worth. I decided to reach out to her using my work number so I could receive some sort of explanation as to why she blocked me. The conversation went like this:
Me: Hey, I noticed I was blocked and I just wanted to know why.
Her: I have no idea how you ended up being blocked. I was drinking with my roommate last night but I don't remember much else.
Me: This all seems too strange. If you don't want to see me anymore, you can just tell me instead of disappearing.
Her: I really don't know how you ended up being blocked but I promise that it wasn't my intentions. I do want to continue seeing you unless you don't want to, then I totally understand.
Me: I do want to continue seeing you too but I feel like a lot of trust has been lost. How do I know that something like this won't happen again?
Her: I promise I'll make it up to you.
Me: Okay let's give it another shot. Are we still meeting up tomorrow?
Her: I think it's best we give each other some space first so we can get back into with a clear mind.
Hearing this really hurt me, especially since I wanted to ask her to be my girlfriend the following day. I didn't know how to respond. I ended up telling her that moving on might be best for the both of us but suggested we speak face to face or video call to really settle all of this. She stopped responding for a couple days and came back to me saying that it's best we move on. I confessed my feelings to her but she didn't acknowledge any of it and said she was certain that she wanted to move on. I'm just really hurt and I keep thinking about "what if I said this, what if I said that".
What else could I have done throughout all of this? I can't help but blame myself for not giving her the space she requested and letting my emotions get the better of me.
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