I 29/F been in a relationship with my boyfriend 40/M for a year and two month. I have a car and my boyfriend is saving up for one so we both use my car. Over the summer while my kids were out of school I allowed him to use my car every weekday to go to work and back by himself. A week and a half ago I cleaned my entire car out. Any kind of trash, jackets, kid shoes and I made sure the floor of my car was squeaky clean to prepare for school pick ups and drop offs. Plus I was taking my car back due to needing it for taking my kids to school. So school started a week and a half ago. My car was spotless and I also started driving my boyfriend to work and bringing my car back home. Then waiting for him to get off work to go pick him up since my kids get out of school before he gets off work. Yesterday I had a left over bag and a couple wrappers in my back seat from letting my kids have a snack the day prior. I decided to clean that out and throw it away before heading to pick my boyfriend up from work. As I was cleaning it up I found a 1 day bus pass with the date of August 20th 2025 and expires the next day. That means that day bus pass was purchased this past Wednesday. I haven’t had absolutely anyone in my car other than my kids and my boyfriend ever since I’ve cleaned it so I know for 100% that I nor my kids could have possibly left it in there plus me or my kids haven’t caught a bus in like 8 years. My boyfriend on the other hand used my car Wednesday night to do some door dashing (the same day that bus pass was dated to have been bought). He was gone for a few hours but apparently made no money. Now let’s go back to Friday when I found this pass. Once I picked him up I asked him kindly about it. Basically do you know where this bus pass came from. He instantly went into defense mode saying you are you blaming me for having someone in the car. I said well I haven’t had anyone in the car so it had to come from you. There’s literally no other possible way it got in my car. Then he was like let me see it and he took it and threw it out the window. He said “I don’t remember having anyone in the car” . Which is crazy. You would remember if you had someone in the car within the last two days. He won’t own up to it. I even told him I wouldn’t break up with him or freak out if he told me the truth. Still he wouldn’t confess it knowing how it got there. I’m horrible at gaslighting myself eventually saying oh maybe he didn’t and it could’ve just blown in my car or a random person threw it in there walking by one day. But in reality I know that wouldn’t happen. The chances of that is basically 0%. He’s trying to be nice and act like everything is okay. I don’t want to give myself the short end of the stick by letting this go like it’s okay. I just want to figure out ways to get him to be honest. Also what would you think if you was in this situation?
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