My girlfriend and I have been together for about three months now and we are very much in love. Both of us agree that this relationship is filled with love, open communication, and great vibes. Going in, she had told me that she had fooled around sexually after her first/last break-up and I said I was fine with it.
About a month later, I started getting hit with intense jealousy and we talked about it. I found out all the details concerning her past relationships with these people and that they had sex, but nothing more. I don't know what they look like and I don't know their names.
She told me she had sex with them because she was seeking a meaningful connection with someone after she broke-up with her Ex, but didn't find one. She lost her virginity to a casual hook up too and that bothers me considerably, but I don't know why.
I'm pretty sure it isn't me being misogynistic as I'm appalled by men having meaningless sex as well.
Now I don't have a sexual history at all beyond my girlfriend nor have I ever dated. Sex has always been something very special to me and I never saw myself having any casual sex. It's difficult for me to understand why she did that and it grosses me out knowing that other people have had sex with her. The emotions may be more intense now, but the physical act is still very much the same. I know I have to deal with this and I don't see breaking up with her as an option at all. She's a marvelous person and we are both in a loving, monogamous relationship.
We've talked about this many times and while she is open to it and understanding of it, she really has nothing more to say that can help me.
Please, how can I overcome this hurdle and continue to build a loving and fruitful relationship with my beloved?
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